It isn't Easy Getting PregnantSunday, November 16, 2014
Pregnancy+parenting are the topics I rarely talk about publicly. Not that I don't have anything to share about it, It's just that I'm not qualified to talk about it. You see, my husband and I have been trying (on and off) to have a baby and at some point I lose interest and just accepted our situation. I realized that I don't want to spend my days getting obsessed with something I'm not sure I'm prepared for. I believe that kids shouldn't be an accident or a social requirement. During our early years of marriage, I always got those nasty questions/comments:
When are you getting pregnant?
Why are you not pregnant?
What are you waiting for, your not getting any younger?
Aren't you jealous of your______ for having a kid already?
No one will take care of you when your older
Your marriage is not complete without kids
You will regret it later if you don't act on it now!
Your husband might have an affair if you don't procreate now (that's the nastiest comment ever)
Most of the time I just smile back and answered "Wala pa eh" (None as of the moment) people get it and stopped asking but there are people who keep on pushing and that made me really annoyed. It isn't okay to ask someone when is she going to have kids or her reasons why she's taking longer that the rest. Why does everyone need to follow the same pattern? Why do they need to know? My theory is, maybe the questions/comments justify their own life choices and not the woman in question.
I know having a child can be very rewarding, but I feel our life is rewarding in other ways and I'm proud of it. I’m currently at peace with the idea of just the two of us+our pets (3 dogs and a fish). Having kids equals unending self sacrifice (that's according to my mom & friends) and for that, I admire their courage and strength. I can only wish and hope for a miracle but for now, We enjoy what we have. Life's too short. We want to live the length and width of it with or without a kid. :) :) :)